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I am the 5%…


I am a part of that small percentage of parents. The small percent that decides to stay at home to take care of their child. I’m also a part of the even smaller percentage; the one no one talks about…the one that is still a little weird for some people to see….I am a Stay-at-Home DAD.
Where did I get the “5%”? Made it up. Yep, I figured it’s a low enough number to represent the small amount of father’s that stay at home with their children.  Most fathers get asked the same question when they are expecting a child, “So your wife is going to stay home while you work?” The answer always surprises them that, in fact, YOU will be the one to stay home and your WIFE will work. Your decision came from months of back and forth conversations, figuring out what the best option would be. When you decide on the Father staying home, you open a world of criticism.
“How can a father be as good of a parent as the mother?”
“Men don’t know how to take care of babies.”
“Women have a maternal instinct that is greater than the Father’s.”
“Women are supposed to stay home with their kids.” (that’s an old one but still comes up to this day)
Fatherhood truly changes your life but staying at home (I believe) has a different effect in your life. You develop instincts that weren’t there. You develop a bond with the child that might not have been there. For me, where I once wasn’t patient; I am. Where I was unsure; I am confident. I was rested; now I’m not.

Now that I have become a Stay-at-Home Dad, I am amazed at how many odd experiences I’ve had. Which is why I decided to write a blog….it also gives me something to do other than changing diapers.
Also, my life has truly become a juggling act; not only trying to be a good father and husband but also trying to do the impossible…attempting to become a successful filmmaker. My passion has always been film but my priority is my family. With the right support, you can accomplish anything. Thankfully I have a very supportive wife on my side.
A little bit about me. I have a beautiful daughter who just had her first birthday a couple months ago. I’ve had the pleasure of being at home to raise my daughter since she was born. We are expecting another bundle of joy in August. My wife is my best friend….honestly, we were friends well before hooking up. Having that friendship with my wife has made our relationship flourish. We can joke about things that normal couples wouldn’t talk about. In terms of film, I’ve been a part of a few music video and short film productions. I made a highly unsuccessful feature documentary…but it was fun to produce. Currently, I’m trying to edit a short documentary and develop a feature script I wrote.  Of course, most of the filmmaking stuff happens during naptimes, which can be a slow process. I enjoy photography, which is one of the positives about having a child (you have a test subject with you 24/7). I also like long walks on the beach….just throwing it out there.
I will be writing about my experiences, my failures/mistakes, and thoughts about being a parent and filmmaking career (or lack thereof). I hope that some will enjoy reading my entries. I also hope that my experiences can help others through similar situations. As any parent would tell you, every child is different and what works for me might not work for you but I will share anyway.  I will also talk about some of the baby products that have worked for us and some that were useless (there are a lot of them). I’m very open and honest…but I’m also sarcastic. So if you sense sarcasm in any of the entries, you are probably right. As long as I have I have readers I will be writing. Although I would probably write anyway because it’s therapeutic….I talk to a 1 year old all day, what do you expect?

Anyway, it may seem impossible; working on a filmmaking career and being a good father but sometimes it works.


8 Comments leave one →
  1. Geoff R. permalink
    02/13/2012 9:01 pm

    Great to see this!

  2. NotJustAnMTVShow permalink
    02/13/2012 9:25 pm

    Glad to see my Husband wasn’t the only Stay-At-Home-Dad in the world, despite what it semmed like at the time!
    People will criticise and judge your parenting whether you’re a stay at home mom/ stay at home dad/ working parents or any other combination. We’re all just muddling along as best we can in our own way. :]

    • 02/13/2012 9:41 pm

      Thank you for the comment! There is a feeling of isolation that comes with being a stay-at-home parent of any kind, so its good to know that you’re not alone. I agree that people criticize anyway. I try not to pay attention. 🙂

  3. Carly A. permalink
    02/15/2012 3:48 am

    You’ve got so much to share! Way to go, Wes. Can’t wait to read more about your juggling act in the circus. I mean, your LIFE as a stay-at-home-dad 🙂 Seriously, congrats!

  4. Kelly permalink
    02/15/2012 9:52 pm

    Howdy Wes! GReat to see you utilizing a good creative outlet. I understand the misconception and stigma that comes along with being a stay at home dad but I know I am seeing it more.
    I think way to go! If you can do it and your wife enjoys to work, rock on! Even if I made more money I think I would want to be the stay at home parent! I am jsut like that, LOL!

    • 02/16/2012 2:14 pm

      Thanks Kelly! It all boils down to who is better to stay at home and who has more patience. If you want to stay at home and know that you can handle it than great. We knew that I would be the better person to stay home mostly because I have more patience with the baby. 🙂

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